Message #71836

[gee4]

Alice,

A further note from me on this and in reply to some of the other postings.....

I think your colleague should be taking YOU to lunch and not the other way round.  She was in the wrong, she was pulled for it and should be the one to make things right with you.

It's funny how some people seem to side with the perpetrator and not the victim.  We can't always be forgiving to everyone about everything.  It that was the case we would all be complete walkovers and wouldn't take a stand about anything.

I don't believe you have to have to give her a second chance at all.  I think firstly she has to acknowledge she did wrong.  Why would you give anyone the chance to demonstrate that they can behave differently?  This person had an opportunity to behave appropriately first time around, and didn't. 

Bottom line here, you have to decide what is comfortable for you, but I certainly wouldn't go along with anything just because it may be the right thing.  What is right for someone else may not be right for you.