Message #74342

[Cathy S]

I think you have to have several strings to your strategy here Dippa - but first please think about these ... how much do you enjoy your role apart from this issue? How easy would it be to find an equivalent job (either at this time of year or in the current financial climate).

Firstly - there are items (eg blaming you for Govt legislation) which are totally absurd.  These you need to politely but firmly return to your boss.  If you feel confident enough you could use a little humour "Oh Boss, that is so flattering that you think I have that much influence ... I wish it worked when I am arranging those 20 person meetings that take up so much time" (or any activity you do for Boss that is time consuming and complicated)

Very often a boss may not realise that something they are saying is taken so seriously and it is only by flagging it that you can find out if this is the case.

Secondly - unless you cannot stand it any more - take your time and start looking at skills and refreshing your CV quietly in the background.

Thirdly keep records of the events that cause you a problem.

2 and 3 give you something to take to HR is you need to, whilst 2 is also helping you prepare if you feel you have to move on.

Cathy