Message #71835

[Cathy S]

Alice, I am really pleased that your company has handled it well and as you say the other party has been shown her error, but still maintains her dignity. 

My thinking is similar to Marie's though ... you say you can never trust her and won't work with her again ... which is a shame because you are not giving her an opportunity to demonstrate that she can behave differently.  She is the one that needs to mend fences and rebuild your trust in her, but if you don't give her the chance to do so you will never know if she can/will. 

They say that you are only as good as your last job ... so right now you are good and have a note to prove it ... she got the public accolade but then was pulled up for it ... If you cannot manage lunch as Marie suggests, move on but when your paths cross again try to be magnanimous in giving her a chance - you have the moral high ground right now so why not keep it?

By having a negative approach to people that have crossed us we risk becoming so focused on preventing them doing whatever that we undermine our own standards and professionalism.

I am not saying it is easy ... but not everything worth doing is easy!

Good luck, Cathy