Message #65776

[gee4]

Dettu, this was me in my last job the one I got made redundant from.

My 2 directors were both very different also - one wanting more but never giving me exact direction, the other being very aloof and not requiring me.

It IS and I agree, unnerving and I felt like I was being watched and constantly monitored.  The director who needed me constantly nitpicked, never praised me and I got nothing positive from him.  The other was wet, didn't need me and never included me in hardly anything.

In the end as you know the first director and I had words and ended up disliking each other.

I am not sure what to suggest here but I do sympathise.  I guess knowing what I have told you about my situation, you have to figure out -

a) are you going to stay in this job?
b) what can you do to make it better and resolve any issues?
c) are you happy?
d) do you want to move on?

It is frustrating I know and whether or not I wanted out by applying for other jobs, or whether I got made redundant, in the end I'm out of there and embarking on a new career path if I can.  

I tried in that job for nearly 2 years and at times felt it would never get better.  Some days were good, others were bad.  If bosses gave us clear direction and praised us once in a while, we wouldn't have these situations arising.

Can you talk to a mentor?  HR?  I too was normally confident and competent but I believe it came down to jealousy.  I had skills they didn't want me to have for fear of being shown up.  I was good at what I did, but was undermined and belittled.

Don't let this go on Dettu, we shouldn't be made to feel like this at our age.  I questioned my bosses attitude to me on several occasions, gave him every opportunity to come clean about me or my work, but he never did.  I think perhaps looking back, the problem was mainly his, whatever it was.

Take some time out to think about things and write it down if it helps - I did.