Message #55629

[spitfire78]

Waaa - somehow after typing this long post I think I deleted it!  Here's hoping it doesn't end up on here twice!!!!

One thing we must remember is that we are ALWAYS entitled to our personal feelings.  We also must remember to separate personal feelings from business relationships.

I worked for this boss for about 13 years.  We had a really good relationship, and he knew he could trust me implicitly.  He accepted a higher-up position which took him out of my secretarial responsibilities.  How did I find out about this?  When I returned from a week's vacation and was told by my coworker that he was no longer my responsibility because he now had this other job!  Was I hurt by this - you bet.  He certainly knew that he could tell me about it in confidence with no worries about it leaking out.  Even if he had told me about it as I was walking out the door on my way to vacation - I would have felt fine with that.  But instead he simply chose the no communication at all route.  I was very hurt over it for a long time (truth be told - it still grates a little and this was about 9-10 years ago!).  But I never said anything about it to him or to anyone else here - just kept doing my job efficiently as ever and smiled through it.  Although I was hurt personally, it didn't hurt me professionally since it actually meant less work for me at the time, not more.  So, I chose to say nothing.  We still have a good relationship - I do occasional ordering for him and he still gives me a gift every year at Christmas.  

That's how I chose to handle my situation, and I feel it worked for me.