Message #54630

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hmmm... I'm coming down on your boss's side I'm afraid.  It's his job to make sure there's a harmonious office atmosphere to encourage good work, and it sounds like he's had several people complaining to him about their perception of your behaviour.

What I will say in your defence is that you probably aren't aware of what it is that you do that winds them up, they could well be dull, vindictive moaners.  If it wasn't you, they would be complaining about something else.  

Unfortunately as they're in the majority he's coming down hard on you.  I'd seriously not take it personally, try & modify whatever it is they're mostly whinging about, and then try and focus your energies on something outside of work.

Question whether this actually is the environment you want to be subjecting yourself to everyday, (new job time?) and meanwhile see if there's something that could be done to introduce a "buffer-zone" between you and the problem-makers (different office arrangements? New project / team?).

I'd agree with your boss - perception is reality, as far as non-empathetic people go.