Message #54822

[npsadmin]

Update -

In the past few weeks I have worked to change a few things.  First, I am slowly but surely making everything in my cube pink.  No comments yet from anyone, but I figure it can't hurt.

Second, I am accepting the idea that I have to work within the perception of other people.  I don't have to agree with their perception, but I have to work with them.  As a part of that, however, I have adopted the "never make assumptions about anyone or anything" philosophy.  I ask a lot more questions than I ever used to, and I ask them of anyone and everyone.  Sometimes I feel like it makes me look like I am not capable of making decisions, but if I get a reply that is even remotely condescending I follow it up with a "Thank you, that is what I thought, but it is never a good idea to make assumptions."  It seems to be working.

And third, I am not venting or even making anything that could be construed as a negative comment to anyone in the builiding.  It wasn't like I was always complaining before - I am not one to be in the gossip circles or whine about every little thing.  But now I  make sure every day a good day and there isn't anything to be negative about.

The other principle I am trying very hard to put into practice is to not take anything personnally.  For someone who puts their heart and soul into their job, this is difficult!  But I have to remove the emotions from the feedback.  I have to learn to accept feedback for what it is - it is just an opinion.  And if it is valid, then I know where I can improve.  And if it is not, then I know it's not and life goes on.  

It has been much more peaceful in my little corner of the office.  Nothing negative from my boss in several weeks.  I have a meeting with him this next week and will request feedback as part of the meeting.  

Thanks to everyone who took the time to write in on this.  It has been a great learning experience.  I am much happier because of the things I have learned.  

LL