Message #54583

[misslynn]

I was going through this until recently and know how frustrating it is.  Two of my mentors gave me 2 pieces of advice that changed everything for me:
1) Don't worry about being something I'm not, just be the best "me" I can be.
I was so worried about trying to be what I thought they wanted me to be that I was constantly anxious, uptight and generally unhappy.  I just relaxed, did best what I do best and my blood pressure has dropped greatly (plus, I have a happier demeanor in the office).

2) Let my actions speak louder than their words.
The comment about not venting to people in the office is absolutely true, this always seems to backfire.  Whatever they are saying about you, whether it be perception or reality, let your actions speaker louder than their words and soon they will look like the fools for saying it.

On the pink thing - that's absolutely true!  I have pink everything (sunglasses, cell phone case, etc.) and get a ton of comments on it.

Good luck to you, I hope it gets better soon