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« Reply #15 on: February 18, 2009, 10:51:48 am » |
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It's very hard to make anyone acknowledge you or say thank you.
One of the managers I worked for in my previous company was caught on one day doing just that, or not as the case was.
I had completed a task for him, can't remember what, and another manager witnessed me confirming details and/or handing over paperwork whilst he was at my desk. My manager walked away without saying thank you and the other manager who witnessed this said to me when he had gone, does he never say thank you? My reply was honest, no, he doesn't.
Neither the manager who witnessed this nor the other PA who I worked alongside could believe what they saw.
I would find it almost impossible not to say thank you to someone in my every day working life, and don't think anyone deserves that kind of treatment. However it could be the person you are talking about isn't aware of it.
If people don't have manners I'm certainly not about to tell them or point it out.
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chattycathy
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« Reply #16 on: February 18, 2009, 11:08:05 am » |
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Thank you for this good advice. I had not thought of trying this approach. When he is back from leave next week I will give it a try and hope that it has the desired result. Its not much to expect a thank you and it would mean so much to me and I really don't want to upset him as otherwise he is lovely. I will let you know how it goes.
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« Reply #17 on: February 18, 2009, 11:19:23 am » |
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It does mean alot to hear or see those two little words, or even just one, "Thanks". I have to admit, my boss is very good at that. He does not make a big fuss, but does not hesitate to say thanks. It does make the work day go a little smoother. Sometimes at the end of the day, when I tell him to have a good evening, he'll say thanks for today. Start saying it and maybe it will catch on.
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gee4
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« Reply #18 on: February 18, 2009, 11:24:50 am » |
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Peaches that is a lovely thing for him to say. I often think that some men treat their wives and secretaries a little the same. For example, a lot of men who have secretarial support expect the support we provide as it is our job, and therefore don't feel the need to always say thank you. Likewise some men also expect support in a similar way from their wives, whether it's regarding issues at home or just generally supporting their views on certain matters (only examples). Before anyone goes to shoot the messenger  , I am not for one minute suggesting all managers treat their secretaries and wives in the same way, but there are some who don't have the respect for women that we deserve. |
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« Reply #19 on: February 18, 2009, 03:57:56 pm » |
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This is a difficult conversation, but one well worth having with your boss, as it will help him grow in his management skills as well. If it were me and I felt strongly about the subject, I would likely try to catch him alone at a quiet non-stressed moment and say something along these lines:
"Bossie, I really enjoy working for you and I love my job. There is one small area of concern that I have. I have noticed that you almost never say thank you, no matter what task I complete. I know that I receive my salary for doing my work and that should be good enough, but honestly, this makes me worry that you are not entirely pleased with the job I have done. A sincere expression of appreciation on occasion would really mean a lot to me. I just wanted to let you know how I felt about the subject. I hope you'll take this into consideration for the future."
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« Reply #20 on: March 05, 2009, 04:04:09 pm » |
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My boss and I are opposites but we have a great working relationship. I think it's because I listen more than I speak. I've found after many years in this field that often our senior managers just need to vent and they need to do so with someone they trust. I sense that your boss is picking up on your body language as it does come through loud and clear in your post - don't get too close! Nothing wrong with that but I think we get back what we put out. I am not that interested in developing a personal relationship with my boss. I have that with my family, friends and select co-workers. My supervisor and I share superficial aspects of our personal lives such as where we went on the weekend, a bit of family news, etc. but I would never share any personal problems with him unless they were work related.
If you are able to do your job with the relationship you now have with your boss that should be sufficient. Not everyone likes to be "buddy-buddy"!
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