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« on: October 12, 2005, 04:58:56 pm » |
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I really wish that female managers/co-workers would not issue their requests to me in simpering baby talk. It makes my skin crawl. I'll gladly fulfill any request in my power, and there's no need to adopt the tones of a three-year-old begging for her teddy.
Sorry, just venting...
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Katie G
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« Reply #1 on: October 12, 2005, 06:25:49 pm » |
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I don't know about baby-talk, but I do notice increasing numbers of females of all ages using a high-pitched nasal tone that sounds forced. It drives me up a wall ESPECIALLY when every sentence ends on an upswing in pitch (as if everything is a question).
And it seems utterly ridiculous coming out of a woman who's in her mid-to-late thirties and older! I'm in my thirties, and I seem to remember as a kid, that adult females sounded like -- well -- WOMEN, and not girls. Even women with naturally higher/lighter voices didn't do the nasal/upswing thing.
Drives me nuts!
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dettu
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« Reply #2 on: October 12, 2005, 08:42:34 pm » |
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I have a lower-pitched voice and I speak in the bottom of my register whenever possible. I want to sound like a grownup.
I just wish my female co-workers did, too. Especially when they've been grown up for the last 40 years.
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« Reply #3 on: October 17, 2005, 04:55:25 pm » |
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You might be overwhelming or intimidating them and this is how they're going about trying to get your help without that intimidation. You might want to look at yourself and interaction with these other females and see if that might be the cause. They may be doing this in an effort NOT to irritate you. If not, then you might want to just go to them and let them know that any requests made, simply and matter of factly, would be appreciated versus this means of communication.
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dettu
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« Reply #4 on: October 17, 2005, 08:37:10 pm » |
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Oh no...this person is not overwhelmed or intimidated by ANYONE. She rolls right over you like a steamroller! I mean, not over me, because I'm not intimidated.
I just reply in my most professional manner in a professional tone of voice and hope that she'll see the light. It could happen...
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« Reply #5 on: October 17, 2005, 08:42:16 pm » |
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Not likely!  But your doing the right thing, keep it professional. Diamondlady Peer Moderator  |
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clevergirl
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« Reply #6 on: October 18, 2005, 01:01:11 am » |
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I've never encountered baby talk in the office, but I can totally sympathize with the reaction. When I was growing up, my mother taught us two things never to do. Never chew with your mouth open, and never use baby talk. I have a hard time listening to people use it to talk to their pets, I can't imagine anyone using it in a work setting. My sympathies! paula Edited by diamondlady on 18/10/05 07:09 PM. |
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« Reply #7 on: October 19, 2005, 10:27:55 am » |
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Ex-colleague used to refer to herself in the third person whenever she fouled up or upset someone. She tended to do both of these several times on days with a Y in them, so you can imagine how irritating it got. No hint of an apology either.
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nickless
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« Reply #8 on: October 19, 2005, 10:47:54 am » |
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quote didface wroteIt drives me up a wall ESPECIALLY when every sentence ends on an upswing in pitch (as if everything is a question).I've noticed that particularly people involved in training use this method. And it makes me wonder whether they really know what they're talking about since they seem to need our approval for each of their "statement". But fortunately I haven't experienced any baby-talk yet. What drives me up the wall is when our office junior (17 yrs) needs/asks every single time before and after she's done a task whether it was OK. "Is it OK if I stuff the envelopes now; Is it OK if I make the tea now; Is it OK if.............." even though she's got more or less set times to do various things. When she'll ask me "is it OK if I breathe", I'll say NO . She's also upset when she doesn't get automatic feedback. We've tried to explain to her that she's not at school any more and we're not here to mark her work like a teacher. I'm sure that we were a lot more grown up when we were teenagers and/or first started work. nickless |
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dettu
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« Reply #9 on: October 19, 2005, 02:15:41 pm » |
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Wow, Nickless. That would drive me bananas. When I was first starting in this line of work, I'd ask is it okay--once, and then I'd do my tasks the same way unless I was instructed to do something different. Sheesh!
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talulah44
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« Reply #10 on: October 26, 2005, 11:26:10 pm » |
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dont know about baby talk but when I returned from a First Aid at work course recently I was told that the way I talked was too sexually arousing and that it had to be nipped in the bud before it got out of hand!!!
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raindance
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« Reply #11 on: October 27, 2005, 09:40:26 am » |
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Your office junior is probably feeling rather unsure of herself. It may also be that she is still treated as a child at home (strictly speaking, she still is a child) and she may be a very young 17. Some 17 year olds are as old as the hills, whilst others are very babyish. I do sympathize, however, as I once had a 20 year old assistant who lived at home with "mum and dad" and was very much the baby of her family - and expected me to be her "office mother".
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