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Katie G
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« on: April 30, 2008, 03:00:36 pm » |
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Forgive me for going out on a limb here, and risking a little TMI, but this does touch a nerve with me sometimes.......
I grew up in an unusually hyper-critical environment, so I'm always afraid that I'm doing something wrong. If someone's yelling and getting personal and nasty in their criticism, I become 9 years old again...and that's not good. Not that I break down in tears or start arguing and shifting blame, but rather that I have a tendency to take it very personally.
As a result, I make a special mental and emotional effort to separate criticism of my work from being criticism of my "self" and character. (Growing up, they were one and the same.) In a way, it's made me very disciplined in how I handle things.
If I am in a position where I need to offer criticism, I try very hard not to "harp" on things, but rather to state the problem, give an example, explain why the situation is not acceptable, and then move right on into "how can this be fixed." [\b] Too often that last step is left off and it's the most important!
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