Message #59650

[raindance]

You're employed to do a job, Gee; you haven't entered a Carthusian monastery and taken a vow of absolute silence.

Establishing working relationships with your colleagues is part of fitting into your new role.

Your bosses have no right to demand - in an overt or implied manner - that you don't speak to anyone else and report every little detail to them if you do have the temerity to do so.  

You've always struck me as a confident and competent woman, so I can see from this and other recent posts that something in this new job is getting to you.  If it isn't a colleague who blanks you, it's your bosses who expect you to work in monastic silence and at the same time report every little bit of gossip (which may explain the "blanking" thing).  Are these people that you, with your integrity, would really like to work for (not very good grammar but it's the best I can do early in the afternoon and with a humungous cold)?

Best wishes,

Raindance